Self-Esteem, Part 1

I came across of picture of R&B songstress Ciara. The article that included the picture was hating on her…hard. I looked at the picture and thought to myself, “She is a gorgeous woman. I hope she doesn’t pay this sh—any mind.” Then, I just became extremely upset. I flashed back to my own past—and current—struggles with low self-esteem. I thought again, “I wish I could tell EVERY woman in the WORLD how beautiful and gorgeous they are. God doesn’t make mistakes.”


I began to think about why the fight against low self-esteem is such a long and brutal battle. I came up with the following answer: Everybody, and just about everything, contributes to it! Commercials, magazine ads, music, men AND women. That’s what bothers me the most. Women will tear down another woman’s self-esteem and feel accomplished about it! It irks me so bad. I would say it’s mostly young ladies high school age and younger, but it’s grown women throwin’ salt on each other too, and it needs to stop!

Women are so judgmental! Young ladies will post Facebook and Twitter statuses resembling the following: I can’t stand when females wear nappy weaves/ B*tch you ain’t got s*it/ My closet sh*ttin’ on yours ho/That’s why yo n*gga on his way over here/Yo bank account empty b*tch/B*tch think she bad, she ugly as f*ck/I can’t stand to see a fine n*gga with a ugly b*tch/You can’t be a Barbie and you look like a sumu wrestler/At the end of the day, he comin’ home to me…What!? Really!? Are these the kinds of things that women pride themselves on? Do we think material possessions and looks make us women? There are Facebook “Pages” dedicated to this crap, and I guarantee a majority of them are started by women. I swear callin’ a chica “Precious” has become the ultimate insult. We tear each other DOWN, y’all.

And another pet peeve of mine is women referring to themselves and/or other women as b*tches. It’s not classy. It’s not cute. Stop it, please! Sometimes, they’re the same women that try to snap at men about calling women b*tches. What is that? It’s called a double standard. We can’t expect men to respect us if we don’t expect ourselves. Respect. Ladies, you should not, under any circumstances, play second, let alone brag about it on a social networking site!! It’s disgusting! You shouldn’t settle for first. In a relationship, the only position you should is just that, ONLY!!!

We, as women, are tearing down each other’s self-esteem! Make sure the words you speak are sweet as honey, because you will probably have to eat them one day or another. You may be laced in Coogi, and have another woman’s man, but she probably has one key ingredient to being a true lady: CLASS.

Ladies, EVERYWHERE, you are ALL BEAUTIFUL!!!

More Poetry by Me

Here's three more poems for my lovely readers. Enjoy!

The Beginning
Can I get to know you?

I said if you show me respect
You have to treat me good
I won’t settle for less
And no you can’t be average
Man you have to be the best
Have a personality
That separates you from the rest
I’ve experienced the lames
And I’m done playin’ their games
I used to be a damn pimp
Wastin’ time on these wimps
Now I’m ready to settle down
When I finally find my king
He’ll be sure to get his crown

Ambition
Sometimes when I don’t have anything to write about

I grab my pen and paper and I just let my frustrations out
I have so much animosity you couldn’t even grasp it
The Bible’s one of the only things that’s been able to get me past it
The people surrounding me are so full of bullshit
They live ass backwards and I don’t know what to make of it
I try to give them advice but all they do is belittle me
They say they wanna see me shine
But secretly wish to get rid of me
So I stay on my grind regardless of if they feelin’ me
I bear the mindset of a hustler
While they have mentality of busters
They’re like crabs in a fuckin’ bucket
And they’re content with how they're livin’
Me, I can’t stay in the same state
It’s something called ambition
You should try it.

Naivete'
Don’t say “aww” when you read this

I’m not your charity case
Please try not to piss me off
Just for humanity’s sake
I’ve written two suicide letters
Both dedicated to a special person
I had to let it go
I realized he wasn’t worth it
I try not to let it run me into the ground
I used to be timid and depressed
Sit back and take a look at me now
I don’t know how you feel
But you should be very proud
I haven’t brought you too many problems
I just backed out and shut down
And when I say shut down
I mean shut EVERYBODY out
And people suggested that I let you go
Whenever I heard your alias I got a lump in my throat
But what do they know?
They just want me to be unhappy
When all along it was you draining the joy from me daddy
What can I say? I was naïve
I don’t waste too many tears on it now
I don’t feel it’s worth it anymore
I don’t wanna end my life.
There’s too much left to explore
I love you dearly and
I really wish you the best
So let's cherish the good times
And forget aout the rest.

I hope at least one of them whispered to each of your hearts. ♥